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Trevor E S Smith | How behavioural styles respond to conflict

Published:Sunday | November 11, 2018 | 12:00 AM

Being alert to behavioural preferences can make a huge difference in managing conflicts. These insights will make a difference in your relationships.

 

PLATFORM

 

For the uninitiated, Extended DISC on the FinxS Platform places 160 unique behavioural classifications into 4 quadrants or groups of behavioural styles.

DOMINANCE: Tendencies include being Direct, Decisive, Dogmatic, keen to win and to achieve their objectives. More oriented to tasks than to people.

INDUCEMENT: Influential, Innovative, Imaginative, keen to get along with others. People oriented.

STEADINESS: Supportive, Sensitive, Submissive, keen to maintain peace. People oriented.

CONSCIENTIOUSNESS: Careful, Compliant, Controlled, keen to ensure that protocol is followed. Task oriented.

 

DOMINANCE: Key Considerations

 

 

Proactive action

 

Individuals with a preference for one of the styles in the Dominance classification will move to resolve conflicts quickly - one way or the other. They are not keen to hold grudges for extended periods. Expect strong, decisive - not always pleasant - action on their part to bring issues to closure. Frank talking, and venting are normal.

 

Winning

 

Losing is often viewed as a sign of weakness. Being in charge and having the upper hand are desired characteristics of the Dominance group of behavioural styles. Consequently, they are not keen to walk away from conflicts with a feeling of being defeated. This might prolong discussions as defiant defences are mounted.

 

Recurrence

 

A key component of the conflict resolution process will be an effort to ensure that this situation does not happen again. Spelling out consequences to discourage a repeat is likely.

 

Progress

 

It is imperative that conflicts are not allowed to negatively impact the achievement of objectives. Expect goal-attainment to play a central role in the conflict resolution process.

 

INDUCEMENT: Key Considerations

 

 

Relationships

 

Individuals with a preference for one of the INDUCEMENT behavioural styles simply want to get along with others. Conflicts are a distraction. Consequently, there will be concerted efforts to play down conflicts and to sweep them away swiftly.

 

Bonding

 

There is a sense in which deepening the bonds is viewed as an antidote to conflicts. The more closely knit we are, the greater our capacity to deal effectively with conflicts. More honey, more harmony!

 

Collaboration

 

One strategy is to invite participation in activities that demand cooperation. "See, we can work/play/sing/dance together. It's all good!"

 

Humour

 

Individuals in the Inducement behavioural group often use humour to lighten the mood and deflect from the issue at hand. Sometimes that inflames others who believe that they are not taking the issue seriously. Smile awhile...greet them with a smile.

 

STEADINESS

 

 

Peace

 

"If possible, so far as it depends on you, live in peace with all people." Rom 12:18 ISV. That admonition resonates with those with a preference for one of the Steadiness behavioural styles. Peaceful resolution of conflicts is given top priority.

 

Self-sacrifice

 

Sacrificing self is a frequent occurrence given priority #1. There is a tendency to be more accommodating than resistant and to simply give in for a peaceful life. The hassle is not worth it!

 

Listening

 

Participants on the other side of the conflict can expect to get a listening ear, without undue interruption.

 

Residue

 

There is the likelihood of lingering hurt even after the conflict has been "resolved". Taking care to address those concerns is important to the strengthening of the relationship.

 

CONSCIENTIOUSNESS

 

 

Fact-finding

 

Conflict resolution from the perspective of individuals in the Conscientiousness classification brings an element of the courtroom into the process. Getting to the facts by gathering evidence is important.

 

Following a process

 

Expect formal structure and process to guide the conflict resolution process. This may frustrate others. Feelings and assumptions must give way to the testing of evidence.

 

Affixing blame

 

From the Conscientiousness perspective, accountability is a central consideration. Therefore, affixing blame must be included in resolving conflicts.

 

Accountability

 

Resolution of the conflict may be tied to the "guilty party" being required to face the consequences of their actions. Previous incidents may be resurrected.

 

ACTION

 

Request a free copy of our presentation: DISCerning Conflict Management: Powerful Conflict Resolution Strategies at info@successwithpeople.org

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